Process Piece:
let's fall in luv
soundcloud.com/deidrene-crisanto/question27
While discussing our ideas for the assignment, we decided that the processes that most interested us were emotional or theoretical. We talked about recording the process of writing a song, scrolling through Netflix, driving to Salt Lake, but the one that we kept coming back to was the process of falling in love. While falling in love may not seem like the most easily trackable concept, we ultimately decided that in our current culture, the most cleanly delineated method of falling in love was Arthur Aron’s “36 Questions: How to Fall in Love.” Though this “process” has many variants and is structured differently for each person, there are common themes and motifs that allow individuals to be themselves wholly while being with each other.
In Commoner’s short film, “The Smokehouse,” Rohan Anderson discusses his noble reasoning for undertaking the daunting task of building his own smokehouse -- to be able to share an experience with his loved ones and feed them delicious, healthy food. As we see him labor towards his goal, we have a greater appreciation for its completion. Along this same vein, hearing the increasingly intense questions in our piece gives the listener an emotional investment in the piece, even if they are not hearing a response. Just imagining someone’s answer or thinking about their own can be enough to illicit a reaction from them. To love is to feel understood and to understand, and these questions allow each individual to spend a concerted effort and time listening and connecting.
To create this piece, we layered a reading of the first 26 questions over the song “Sway with Me” by local artist Batty Blue. As the refrain calls for the listener to “sway with me”- a physically involving act- the questions invite the listener into the process of introversion and reflection- a subjective psychical act. By stopping at the 26th question- the point at which we believed the questions to accelerate particularly in the direction toward romantic love- we highlight the ways in which one can also fall in love platonically, and the suspended process is an invitation for listeners to continue the process should they so choose and to allow for the subjective definition of “falling in love” to become an involved and malleable topic.
Who do you have in mind when you are listening?
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
To Fall In With Anyone, Do This.
Song Credit: "Sway with Me" - Batty Blue
Batty Blue Band: battyblue.bandcamp.com/
The 36 Questions: 36questionsinlove.com/
NY Times Article, "To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This": www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashio…yone-do-this.html
Arthur Aron's Study & Findings: psp.sagepub.com/content/23/4/363.full.pdf+html